What Is Love???

I hardly buy newspaper coz I don't have much time to read it. So, I rather read it from the net. Today, I were slightly free this morning and wanted to update myself on the news about the little girl Ying Ying. Taking about this, I really boiling hot liau. This one call mother??? She is not fit!!! Anyhow, what I wanted to talk about here is regarding a teenage girl Chai Kah Mun from KL.

Normally, I will see from the side bar what is most viewed news for the day and after reading about Ying Ying story, this is another one that catch my eyes - Runaways run to Chong first. Now, who want to run away pulak? This girl is only 15 years old and she had run to Datuk Micheal Chong office. She is not there for serious help but in return telling him that she had got a plan to run away from home. She does not want them to entertain the family if they would go to Datuk Chong office to ask for help. She said her dad, Chai had been too controlling over her and she is not allow to go for tuition class. But her dad said, he could not afford it as he is only a Chee Cheong Fun seller. He also added that Kah Mun boyfriend who is from another race challenge him to search for the house once when she runaway from home.

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Kuala Lumpur ........ He had previously placed her in a home as he claimed she was “too demanding” – wanting to go out every day and seeking more freedom. “I promised to allow her to continue the relationship once she turned 18. She asked that I allow her to go for tuition classes. I want to but I do not have enough money,” said Chai.

Kah Mun, who cried during the press conference, said she just wanted her father to allow her out of the house, and trust that she would be able to take care of herself. “I don’t want to be locked up all the time,” said Kah Mun.

Chong acted as a mediator and obtained a promise from the father to allow Kah Mun out of the house twice a week. He also urged Kah Mun to understand her father’s concern and financial difficulties.

“Here is an example of a vulnerable single-parent family trying its best not to crack from the everyday pressures of financial limitation, a generation gap and outside influences,” he said.

I were a little disappoint and feeling sad over this news lor. What is going on with the society? The father may be over protective but he may have his worry over her daughter. There are so many cases that young girl are being cheated or raped by boyfriend. Tell me which dad or parents don't wish the best to happen on their kids. She is only 15 years old and don't tell me she know what is love. The love she needed and searching are a different type of love. I called Kah Mun love as puppy love only. There are still lots of things that she had yet to see and experience. Any teenager who read my story might not be agreeable to me but sit down and calm down - think about your future. I have also gone thru the teenage life and I know. I have also seen many things. For example, a teenager who stay next door to my mom's house. She is only 16 years old and she is soon to give birth. Her husband is only 20 years old, working in as a casual worker in a factory. How much money can he earn? Don't think the figure he earn could be enough for himself too. How is he going to take care of the wife and the baby? Now, the burden goes to the parents. Why? Because the parents got to take care of her and her expenses too. This girl is going to miss a lot more fun as a teenager. Only 16 and she is already a mom. When I am 16, I am so happy playing around, go to places that I want to visit and many more. And for her, she got to sit at home and jaga anak.

On the other side, I believe the dad could be over protective. Nowadays, what every teenager are talking about is FREEDOM. Who don't want freedom? But do everyone know how to used it correctly? We as parents should know what our kids need too.

Today, I am a daughter and also a mother to 2 kids so, I felt I am qualify to say this - young people, try to understand your parents. Do not compare yourself with your friends. Everyone are different. Don't blame your parents, they could have tried their best to provide the best to you. Off course, as parents we should not be too over protective. Everyone need some space for their personal things too. We can keep an eye on them but should not treat them as prisoner lor. Today world is very much different from the previous. Parents should learn to be the kids best friends too. What do I mean by this? Meaning, apart from their good friends, we as parents should also be their close friends. By doing this, they will share with us about their feelings, problems and things that are going on with them. By knowing what is going on with them, it is much easier for us to help them. Many parents thought that by giving money to their children means they love them very much. Whoever have this thinking, I can tell you that you are WRONG. Kids are like us adult too - need love, care, attention, understanding and communication too. MONEY is NOT LOVE. Spend time daily with your kids. In return our children will also understand us when we talk to them - there could be time where we face difficulty in our financial or work. We have to teach them to learn certain things. If they can understand us like how we understand them, don't you think the situation will be better ?

Guess, I am bit cheong hei (long winded) liau today.